I haven’t studied life as a pioneer— early American or any
other sort— but I grew up reading Laura Ingles Wilder and early American Girl book
collections with the best of ‘em. That was back when there were only three American
Girls and they involved passably well-written books with cute pictures- no
American Girl salons where you went to get all salon-ified with your doll that
cost your parents a small fortune to buy, let alone to clothe. I just found out
there’s even a doll hospital with an admission form for when your doll is “sick.”
Okay, I have to admit the form is a pretty stinkin’ cute idea for how to get
your doll repaired. And if I had a girl I’d probably be first in line to get
one of the dolls, or more likely, to buy the Up and Up brand knock-off doll
from Target. (I don’t think that’s a thing.) I’ve also completed some American
History and American English courses in my day. I’ve toured preserved pioneer
towns in states like Minnesota and North Dakota. My point is, I have a vague
idea of what pioneer life was like in early America.
I have now been a stay at home mom for nearly four years in
a fairly updated condo with not only
modern plumbing but electricity and stainless steel appliances. I live in a town that is in most places a squeaky-clean
suburb, boasting things like wine and fine arts festivals and an organic
cupcakery, in a comparatively wealthy county
that has some of the best schools in the country, in a state that flat-out rocks, (slogan: Virginia is for Lovers)(peanuts
and ham, are you kidding me? Awesome.) in a country
that, though a little politically rocky now and then, still is the best
democratic experiment ever experimented and in which we have freedoms that many
don’t. Long sentence’s interpretation: I do not live the rustic life of a
pioneer woman, even though at the end of the day I feel like I have been rubbing
my face on a metal washboard in the sun all day.
What I want to know is how in God’s good name did they do
it? They had to do things, at least in my mind, like hunt and eat jackrabbits
and walk through blizzards in skirts with no gloves. They gave birth with no
meds to twelve children and still could fit into their petticoats and bloomers
afterwards (probably within hours). They rode on animals, milked animals,
slaughtered animals, and preserved and prepared them for their families for
dinner. They must have had to do things like scrub outhouses and sew underwear
for the menfolk that had to withstand various forms of farming. They probably
also helped pull the beams up for new houses. They rocked the once-a-week warm
water bath heated by fire. They did all this without power, running water,
appliances of any kind, wine festivals, or an edgy state slogan. I suppose some
of their extreme industriousness was due to the fact that they also did without
Pinterest, HULU Plus, Facebook, Costco, extracurricular after-school robotics
clubs, and kids’ weekend basketball tournaments in Ontario.
As I am slaving away in the kitchen, deftly wrestling some
frozen chicken breasts into the crockpot whilst still in my pajamas because
they’re easier to nurse in, I wonder how they did it. I feel a little
embarrassed that I have an ice maker in my freezer and a rice cooker. But then
I realize that we have these conveniences due in part to the kick-assery of
these women and men. Maybe they are looking down at us smiling because of the
advances of modernity. I hope they aren’t cursing at us.
We live in a time when our challenges are different, I tell
myself. I have to do things like walk all three children around on sidewalks
without letting them get hit by traffic. I have to remember to pack snacks for
when the bus or train is late or swim class makes them hungry. I need to
monitor what the kids watch on TV and arrange playdates with upstanding
toddlers. I remember who is gluten-free, lactose-intolerant, and has food
allergies. I plan seasonal kids’ crafts and study the YMCA and community center
children’s classes. I have to attempt to take back library books before they
accrue fines. I navigate Craig’s List for stroller frames and gliders with the
greatest of ease. I have to memorize the local bus schedule and figure out how
to remember my medicine so I don’t have seizures. I have to package and freeze
my pumped-out extra breast milk. I plan and cook most meals. (Thank goodness I
don’t have to also do the grocery shopping.) I have to remember where all the
public restrooms are located at parks, museums, and at any given moment on a
walk. I have to remember my keys, which for me is a constant challenge that
makes Brian want to sign divorce papers and be done with it all. Moms and dads
all over do these same things and many more. These aren’t as physically
demanding and the actual lives of our children don’t depend on them. But the
quality of life does depend on them. We could
depend on the television and Papa John’s to raise the kids. Of course both of
those things have their places, but I mean solely
TV and pizza.
I still don’t understand how those pioneer moms did so much.
Maybe they had secrets we can’t imagine today. Maybe venison, jackrabbit stew,
and giant fresh carrots provided extra boosts of energy for them. I sit here
eating my granola and listening to the hammering of the construction site next
door. I hear the hiss of the bus stopping across the street, and see the red
taillights of morning traffic. I watch my little life wake up and I like it.
*It should be noted that the three children have not yet
risen, allowing me delicious silence to watch and listen to the world around
me. And also that I began this blog entry over a month ago, added to it three weeks ago, and then forgot
about it. And I’m actually not sure I haven’t already published it
on the blog, though I couldn’t find it, so hopefully not.
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